Sobreviviente | Survivor Story

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 Client: Sandra H. *name was changed, request of survivor

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1) Por cuanto tiempo estabas en una relación abusiva?
Nunca me di cuenta de lo que me estaba pasando. No tenía idea que estaba en una relación abusiva. No sabia que lo que él me estaba haciendo era violencia doméstica. Yo, en mi país, viví violencia doméstica por eso yo siempre pensé que porque había violencia física era violencia doméstica. Por eso en mi nueva relación pase 2 años sin saber que lo que él estaba haciendo era abuso.

2) Qué fue lo que te hizo dar cuenta que querías ayuda para sanar de lo que te paso?
Yo estaba platicando con una amiga de mi iglesia y le comentaba que yo tenía mucho miedo y estaba muy triste. Es cuando ella me comento de unas platicas que hacen en el Consulado Mexicano sobre la prevención de violencia a la mujer. Cuando yo fui al consulado conocí a la coordinadora del programa y ella me dijo “Lo que te esta pasando suena como violencia doméstica. Por qué no te conectas con W.O.M.A.N.; inc, ahí te pueden ayudar.” Ya estaba cansada de sentir tanto miedo que sabía que ya era tiempo de buscar ayuda. No sabía de lo que me estaba pasando, solo sabía que no era correcto.

3) Cómo fue tu proceso de sanar? Tuvisteis algunos momentos en que pensaste “si voy a estar bien”?
Viniendo aquí a W.O.M.A.N., Inc. me ayudo mucho. Me ayudaron a conectarme con agencias que me apoyaron mucho para dejar a mi esposo. W.O.M.A.N., Inc. también me conecto con terapia y eso a sido un gran apoyo. Con la ayuda de mi terapeuta empecé a ver la situación como era, una de violencia doméstica.

4) Como te ha inspirado W.O.M.A.N., Inc.? Como te ha ayudado W.O.M.A.N.,  Inc. en tu proceso de sanar?
WI me ha inspirado a ser fuerte. Creo que por mucho tiempo se me olvido como hacer fuerte y W.O.M.A.N., Inc. me ayudó a reencontrar mi fuerza. Aprendí de las diferentes formas de abuso y esto me ayudo mucho con mi proceso de sanar. Se que mi proceso de sanar va ser largo, pero también se que no estoy sola.

5) Que es tu cosa favorita de participar en W.O.M.A.N., Inc.?
Creo que esto tiene que ser todo el apoyo que e recibido aquí en W.O.M.A.N., Inc.. Todos quien e conocido han estado conmigo cada paso que he dado. Me siento parte de la agencia.

6) Algo más que quieras compartir? Algo divertido de ti? Algunas palabras de sabiduría o pensamientos para la comunidad de W.O.M.A.N., Inc. (personal, voluntarios, participantes etc)?
Creo que le diría a esta gente que no tengan miedo de buscar apoyo, que hay gente y agencias que quiere ayudarle. Solo tienen que hacer el primer paso.

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1) How long were you in an abusive relationship?

I did not really realize what I was getting into. I had no idea that I was in an abusive relationship. I did not know that what he was doing to me was called domestic violence. I had experienced domestic violence in my country before this relationship but I always thought that because it was physical abuse was what made it domestic violence. So in my new relationship it was 2 years not knowing that what he was doing was abuse.

2) What made you realize you wanted to reach out & heal from what happened to you?

I was talking to a friend from church about how scared and unhappy I was and she was the one that told me to go to the Mexican Consulate because they do presentations on
Women’s violence prevention. When I went there I met the woman that coordinates these presentations with outside agencies and she told me “you know what is happening to you sounds like domestic violence, you should go talk to W.O.M.A.N., Inc. and see how they can support you.” I was tired of always being afraid so I knew that it was time to get help. Except I didn’t really know what was happening, I just knew it was not right.

3) What was the healing process like for you? Did you have any epiphanies (or ‘ah ha’ moments)? Was there a specific point in the process where you thought, ‘hey, I really am going to be okay’?

Coming to W.O.M.A.N., Inc really helped me. I was able to get connected with outside agencies that helped support me to leave my husband. W.O.M.A.N., Inc also connected me with therapy and this was a huge help. With the help of my therapist I began to see things clearly and really see my situation for what it was, domestic violence.

4) How has W.O.M.A.N. Inc., inspired or empowered you? How has W.O.M.A.N. Inc., helped in your healing process?

W.O.M.A.N., Inc. has inspired me to be strong. I had forgotten how to be strong but W.O.M.A.N., Inc. helped me rediscover my strength. I was able to learn about the different forms of abuse and this helped my healing process. I know that it will take a lot of time to heal from this but I know that I am not alone.

5) What is your favorite thing about participating at W.O.M.A.N. Inc.,?

I think it would have to be all the great support that I have received from the agency. Everyone that I have interacted with has really been there for me every step of the way. I feel cared for and a part of the agency.

6) Anything else you would like to share? A fun fact about yourself? Some words of wisdom or thoughts for the W.O.M.A.N., Inc. Community (staff, volunteers, supporters, participants etc.)?

I think that I would like to tell people who are afraid of reaching out for support to not be afraid, that there are agencies and people out there that can and want to help. All it takes is making that first step and connecting with people. If I didn’t talk to my friend from church I would have never found the help I wanted.

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